Our beloved nephew, Justin Ross of West Milford, who died on Sept. 19, 2009 will be celebrating his second birthday in heaven this Sept. 23. Justin would have been 25 years old. There is not one single day when we don’t think about him nor is there a day we stop smiling when we remember all his silly antics and the fun, happy times we shared. Although his life was cut short, he truly lived large and gave of his love freely. He was a one in a million beautiful young man whose death impacted everyone he knew. I write this letter to the editor because those who knew Justin knew the struggles he was going through and never said a word. They kept their eyes shut and their mouths closed. How unfortunate that no one told so perhaps he could had gotten some help. How many of their other friends did they see die? When do you say it’s enough, this time I’m going to do something even if it means they’ll hate you for it. If you see a friend in dire straits, speak up and tell someone. Sure they may say they hate you or if you are their friend you won’t say anything but you know what? Better them being an alive friend then a dead one. Wake up and grow up. I’m not saying that the outcome would not have been the same but who knows? We weren’t given that opportunity. Now my sweet Justin, though always in our hearts, will never be here to hug or to hold or to speak with or grow old. What a great loss of life. We love you tremendously Justin and if this letter can reach but one person remember - we thought this could never happen to us because like everyone else thinks it always happens to the other person. But you know what? You are the other person to someone else. Please dear parents, family and friends, talk to your kids and really see and hear what they’re saying or doing because you just might be saving their life. Forever loved and missed by Uncle Steven, Aunt Debbie, Talon and Jarod. Deborah Fishelberg Monroe, N.Y.